How to Help Your Teen When They Feel Lonely

Loneliness is a burden on a teen's life. It deeply affects the teenager's mental health during their crucial formative years. Loneliness and isolation are a growing concern for not only the teen but also their parents. Any parent would do well to look for ways to help their teens overcome the feelings of loneliness.  Learn to recognize your teen's sense of loneliness. Equip yourself with insights and tools to support them through it. By helping your teen through the discomfort, they will learn to overcome the challenges and enjoy their journey to adulthood.

How to Recognize the Signs of Loneliness in Your Teen

Teens may not always vocalize their feelings of loneliness. It may even take you a while to detect said feelings in them. But there are symptoms to look for, such as:

• Withdrawal from social interactions: If your teen starts avoiding social activities they once enjoyed, it may be the start of their loneliness. 
• Change in social skills: An abrupt change in how they interact, such as appearing more shy or uncomfortable in social situations, could reflect feelings of isolation.
• Increased screen time: Excessive use of their gadgets (smartphone, computer, video game console) can sometimes represent a lonely teen's attempt to escape their loneliness.
• Altered sleeping patterns: Too much or too little sleep can be associated with mental health issues, including chronic loneliness.
• Mood changes: Feelings of isolation can lead to sadness, irritability, or a negative outlook on life.
• Decline in academic performance: A lack of concentration or a decline in grades might signal that a teen is going through a difficult time, potentially due to loneliness.

If you notice these behaviors, it might be time to start talking about their mental health and social well-being.

The Impact of Loneliness on a Teen's Mental Health

Loneliness, particularly among teenagers, has a significant impact on mental and even physical health. When teens experience chronic loneliness, they're at risk of developing mental health issues like depression, anxiety, and lowered self-esteem. Teen loneliness can crop up from social isolation, a lack of social skills, or significant changes in social relationships (like moving to a new city or going to a new school). Loneliness may also affect a teen's outlook on life and their ability to form meaningful connections in the future. It's critical to take teenage feelings of loneliness seriously to prevent the development of more severe mental health conditions.

How to Help Your Lonely Teen

Help your lonely teen by beginning with communicating openly with them. Then, address loneliness as a real and pressing issue. Acknowledge that it's a serious problem, not something to be dismissed or taken lightly. Coaxing your teen out of their shell might take some time, but as a parent or guardian, create a safe space for your teens to openly express themselves. Encourage your teen to share their thoughts and try to listen to them without judgment. Consider the following tips to start the conversation:

• Pick a neutral ground that's also a comfortable space. If your teen decides that this is outdoors or away from home, respect and follow their wishes.
• Be natural and don't force it. Wait until your teen is ready to talk and avoid putting pressure on them. If they're not comfortable opening up yet, take your time and wait for the right moment.
• Listen actively and validate their emotions. Active listening requires your full engagement where you listen to understand, rather than to respond. Maintain eye contact, nod, and provide feedback that shows you understand their sentiments. When validating their emotions, you don't necessarily have to agree with them but acknowledge their feelings are legitimate and important.
• Choose your response carefully. To avoid being judgmental, consider your answers carefully. Responses such as "It sounds like you're feeling left out, that must be tough" or "I can see how upset you are, I want to help" that show care and open-mindedness are more likely to invite a more positive attitude from your teen. It shows them they're being heard and supported by someone they can depend on.

Encouraging your teen to engage socially

If your teen struggles with loneliness, you can suggest a few activities to foster new social connections or rebuild old friendships. Your suggestions can help them come out of their shell and use their social skills anew to build new relationships. Some ideas of how you can do this are:

• Introduce your teen to a trusted friend's fellow teenage kid and let them build their own connection
• Invite your teen's friends for a fun meet-up like an outdoor picnic, costumed tea party, or a barbecue dinner so they can deepen existing friendships
• Suggest your teen join a volunteer group that will give them a sense of purpose, improve their outlook on life, and promote altruistic friendships
• Take them to a community center where your teen can engage in family-oriented social activities and events
• Encourage your teen to try a new extracurricular activity that's different from what they're used to (e.g., joining a debate club instead of signing up for a sports team like in the years past)
• Register your teen to participate in workshops and camps where they can learn new skills and meet others with similar interests
• Allow your teen to join online gaming and forums and participate in moderation. Some online platforms can be used to nurture friendships as long as your teen still balances their screen time with real-world interactions

Whatever your teen chooses—sports teams, artistic extracurriculars, or clubs—will significantly reduce their levels of loneliness. These activities will provide a structured social life where they're more likely to make meaningful connections. Your teen will learn from these activities that common interests and shared goals can establish strong ties.

Help Your Teen When They Feel Lonely

Sometimes, your teen may just want some peace and quiet, an alone "me-time" to wind down from their activities. But if they're showing symptoms like social withdrawal, increased screen time, and mood changes, you may be dealing with a lonely and isolated teen. Take time to communicate with them and find out what's wrong. Then, suggest some fun interactive activities to build back their social life. At Liahona Academy, participants have little chance of being lonely with friendly staff members and fellow residents. We encourage teamwork by endorsing many group activities and therapies. Contact us today to find out how we can help your troubled teen.